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by dj_ultima_the_great » Thu May 12, 2011 1:13 am
Weird things happening in life. I'm graduating soon, which is more terrifying than nice. According to my sister, the financial situation at home is not looking so good for my mother (who won't talk to me about this herself, even though I have to live with her for a while yet).
I came up with an idea that I think would be good, but getting Mom to agree to it will be like pulling teeth, and it will be a pretty big change for me. I want us to move. She can't afford our house - it would have been foreclosed upon last month had my sister not loaned Mom money. (I don't have any more details than that; my sister was "sworn to secrecy" by my mother.) There are a few main advantages to moving:
1. Bigger city means more opportunities for work. She's going to need me to start pitching in, but I don't feel like I'm going to find a job in my piddly 3200-population hometown. (The town in question has 65,000.)
2. Bigger city also means I don't necessarily need to buy a car because I can use public transportation or hoof it/bike. I'll be able to pitch in more and save up more in order to eventually get out on my own.
3. Mom works in that city. This would eliminate a one hour and twenty minute round trip each day. Cheaper on gas, easier on the car, closer to useful locales/resources.
4. I don't need much space. I have been living in a dorm room for six years (in just one corner, I might add, and I lived out of one suitcase during my semester abroad). I know I can function just fine with a single room of space. A small two bedroom apartment would be a simple transition.
5. Relating to number four, this would give Mom most of the other space, which would hopefully lean her towards something smaller and cheaper if I'm not taking up too much room and cramping her. (Doesn't seem as important, but making her feel like she still has the living space of a real house is all a part of making her receptive to the decision of moving in the first place. I need to make this look as appealing as possible.)
She's going to fight me tooth and nail on this, because she is very, very comfortable with living in a small town, but seriously... she - or rather, WE - are beyond fucked financially. I'm looking at being homeless if I can't get out of there or change the situation somehow. I'm sick of her indecision; I shouldn't have to be the parent here, but I'll be damned if she drags me down with her.
- Jen
EDIT: also, I am by nature a very unstressed person (though easily irritated), but I find that I am straining at the seams a little bit now. I'm currently just trying to enjoy my last week of school and look forward to ACen. This shit can wait at least that long.