Your forum personaity vs Your real life personality
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Chaos Angel
- Joined: Mon Jan 07, 2002 11:34 am
- Location: Vidderating
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SarahtheBoring
- Joined: Sun Apr 07, 2002 11:45 am
- Location: PA, USA
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I'm a pretty honest/authentic person, overall. I don't put up fake fronts and I don't respect people who do.
Probably the best way to describe it is that I think the way I write, but I don't usually say anything about it. I'm a bad judge of who will be all right with my opinions and who will give me a hard time, so I tend to keep it to myself just to avoid confrontation. Even so, it's true to myself either way.
Also, remember that this particular forum is a hostile place for me. So that's an important factor. I am much more relaxed in other places online.
Probably the best way to describe it is that I think the way I write, but I don't usually say anything about it. I'm a bad judge of who will be all right with my opinions and who will give me a hard time, so I tend to keep it to myself just to avoid confrontation. Even so, it's true to myself either way.
Also, remember that this particular forum is a hostile place for me. So that's an important factor. I am much more relaxed in other places online.
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Flint the Dwarf
- Joined: Wed Jan 16, 2002 6:58 pm
- Location: Ashland, WI
So true. In real life, Chaos is one of the stupidest people you'll ever meet.Chaos Angel wrote:I think I am actually the reverse of most people. I'm somewhat more reserved online than in real life. See I can proofread a post before making it, and not say dumb stuff, whereas in real life, I have a very bad habit of saying whatever pops into my head without thinking about it first.
Thanks for the ride.
Kusoyaro: We don't need a leader. We need to SHUT UP. Make what you want to make, don't make you what you don't want to make. If neither of those applies to you, then you need to SHUT UP MORE.
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Arigatomina
- Joined: Thu Apr 03, 2003 3:04 am
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I'm very different in real life from how I behave here - most of the time. In rl, I'm outspoken - and I mean downright confrontational. There's nothing I like better than to publically humiliate an adversary, and to do it verbally with plenty of witnesses. That's why I enjoyed debate so much in college. With my friends, I'm the leader. I don't talk that much, but that's because I don't have to, it's easier to listen, and since I tend to find friends who need help, being a good listener is a great quality. And in public I'm quiet unless someone confronts me - I don't go out of my way talk to people I don't care one way or the other for. They're nothing to me, so I don't waste the time. But while I'm quiet in public, I'm also flashy - you might say slutty if you saw me playing pool, but I don't flirt unless I know the person, so it's just that I'm comfortable and confident in public - I'm open, but I don't bother to talk to people I don't know or want to know.
Online I found I was different - on my other forum first. I'd still keep strong ties with my friends, but I didn't feel the need to 'drive' the relationship as much as I do in real life. I think that's because the sort of people I'm friends with are the type who are stronger online than they would be in real life - they don't need me to control things, so I can be more easy going. I'm still confrontational, but I try not to act badly online - there's no face-to-face contact, so I generally won't gain anything. And even if someone attacks me, I don't really lose anything - so there's less motivation to get into fights. The only time I really revert to my normal aggressive nature is when someone comes under attack - someone who reminds me of a friend, or someone who can't or won't stand up for himself - but that doesn't happen too often.
Basically, this forum is easy. I don't see the people, I don't have to worry about ramifications if I 'lose' an argument - I can just ignore it, and I couldn't do that in real life. And all the conversations are in writing. That makes a huge difference since it's easier for me to communicate this way, than verbally - it's a lot harder to plan out what you say than it is to really think about what you're writing. My only regret is that you can't see facial expressions, so it's harder to read people. In real life I rely on being able to read people, and I'm usually good at it - here that isn't an option so I have to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. It makes me nicer, and that isn't a bad thing. ^_^
Online I found I was different - on my other forum first. I'd still keep strong ties with my friends, but I didn't feel the need to 'drive' the relationship as much as I do in real life. I think that's because the sort of people I'm friends with are the type who are stronger online than they would be in real life - they don't need me to control things, so I can be more easy going. I'm still confrontational, but I try not to act badly online - there's no face-to-face contact, so I generally won't gain anything. And even if someone attacks me, I don't really lose anything - so there's less motivation to get into fights. The only time I really revert to my normal aggressive nature is when someone comes under attack - someone who reminds me of a friend, or someone who can't or won't stand up for himself - but that doesn't happen too often.
Basically, this forum is easy. I don't see the people, I don't have to worry about ramifications if I 'lose' an argument - I can just ignore it, and I couldn't do that in real life. And all the conversations are in writing. That makes a huge difference since it's easier for me to communicate this way, than verbally - it's a lot harder to plan out what you say than it is to really think about what you're writing. My only regret is that you can't see facial expressions, so it's harder to read people. In real life I rely on being able to read people, and I'm usually good at it - here that isn't an option so I have to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. It makes me nicer, and that isn't a bad thing. ^_^
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Masterdeeds
- Joined: Sun Apr 06, 2003 8:56 pm
I'm somewhat different IRL and online. I'm a writer, so the way I write is different then when I speak. I also tend to keep to myself, staying in my room all the time at home(my family keeps trying to make me come out every once and a while) and when I'm elsewhere... still staying to myself.
But, unlike in the chat rooms and such, I usually don't swear or cut people down... I guess I'm actually kinda shy and sensitive. But, then again, God have mercy on the person that incurs my wrath.
But, unlike in the chat rooms and such, I usually don't swear or cut people down... I guess I'm actually kinda shy and sensitive. But, then again, God have mercy on the person that incurs my wrath.