(superJet) needs advice

superspike · Post by **superspike** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 10:12 am

OK, for all u people that dont know me, im Spike, I havent posted in a LONG time, but this one still isnt really my post. Its for a friend that needs help. Or Addvice. Could ya help him, out n tell him what u think he should do.

SuperJet::

Ive Known spike for a long time, Me and him are good friends.

I just need advice right now, I have a f**ked up mom whos stressed out and takes her anger out on me cause she says I dont do anything around the house,
well this morning I woke up and my mom was in a pissed off mood.

She started bitching about how dirty my room was( when my room was bearly dirty). I said it dosnt need to be clean. She said she didnt want me to live there anymore, cuz im am so much trouble already to her.(im 13 and she wants to kick me out =\) So I stayed on my bed and didnt do anything . My mom grabbed a bat and wacked me in the ass twice then I tryed to grab the bat to get her to stop but (wack) she swung at my hand and left a red mark... So I ran to Spikes house.

what do I do now

-PS- This has been going on for a long while now.

jonmartensen · Post by **jonmartensen** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 10:23 am

Child Protective Services needs to be notified.

superspike · Post by **superspike** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 11:49 am

he is a little scared to call the CPS =\

plus his parents tell him things that put him down and make him feel like HE is the one acting wrong =\

Im really not sure how to help him.

They tell him stuff like "You would call the police on US? then have yourself takin away, to some random people that you dont even know?"

And plus ones, he came to my house in the middle of the night after he had some MORE problems with his parents. =\

:Spike:

Farmboybob · Post by **Farmboybob** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 12:20 pm

I agree with Jon from the bottom of my heart.
I'm just trying to think logicly here, but I'm thinking that he would be alot happier with someone else then with his parents. Maybe your family could adopt him or something. Just a suggestion.
But yeah, if he really wants the pain to stop, call the damn CPS. Or you call if he doesn't.
But thats just my advice.

madmallard · Post by **madmallard** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 1:32 pm

the alternative being clean your room, goto a friend's house or after school program as much as possible for the next 5 years, then move the heck out.

we can't make those choices, just offer suggestions

Kazutaka · Post by **Kazutaka** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 2:45 pm

I feel for your friend, I lost my father when I was 10 to a stroke that left him totaly paralyzed from the neck down, he also lost the ability to speak (vegatative state). This of course completly broke my mother. I spent the rest of my childhood helping to take care of my father and dealing with a VERY overly protective and somtimes abusive mother. I dont blame her I dont believe that she was right in the mind after that happened. However I dont know that your friends mother has an excuse (there really is no excuse to abuse someone). I too tried to call Children and Family Services to no avial.
What got me through was my friends (thank God I had good close friends at the time). I also went through my school and talked to a psychiatrist (in secret because my mother would have KILLED me if she found out) for a very LONG time to help me make it through. When I turned 18 I moved out of the house and got away from her. It was hard I lived on the streets for awhile but I had my freedom and eventually got my life together.

My best advice would be to try to seek psychological help through the school system (I went to private school but I do know a few public school psychologists). They will be able to help your friend find the best path for him at this time. Also if the case is that desperate they will go through the proper channels to get him a new home if neccessary. They can get action started quicker sometimes than non-medical/professional people can. I wish you guys the best of luck and a brighter future. Hang in there, and be his friend he needs you now more than ever.

superspike · Post by **superspike** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 2:49 pm

we called up the police, they wrote their report.

Justin is feeling a little better, but he is still going through a little hard times. =\

I do hope that he will be ok, im gonna try to b there for him more.

:Spike:

gadoo · Post by **gadoo** » Thu Jul 17, 2003 2:32 am

Just hide the bat. (and any other harmful easy to reach objects) Always use any object besides your hands to cover blows...running to your bed is always best because of those fluffy pillows (If you're the type to cower in a corner, or just too tired of running). If you can't find anything to protect yourself, your feet (with shoes on perferably) are your best bet...they hurt the least and give great distance from the attacker for any plan bs, plluuuuuuussss they can actually hurt the attacker's hands that are flailing at you violently. A table is always your best friend especially when you're running from someone. It always gives you enough distance to run from your attacker as well as enough time to think of a plan b(unless ofcourse if the attacker is faster than you). And since it's a mother, they're not so fast, so it's easy to out run them..bla bla. Get a lock for your bedroom, or those pool alarm things just in case your mom wants to get you at night. Never close your eyes in the shower. If you still get hit by not being able to escape on time ect. crying like a bitch helps (unless your mom knows your tricks) She'll think you've had enough and be satisfied. When in actuality it didn't hurt much. It's always better to get 2-5 hits rather 10-15.

I am dead serious about my advice (just in case anyone thought I was joking) These techniques seem to work the best for me.

Titus · Post by **Titus** » Thu Jul 17, 2003 2:40 am

In case you ever considered suicide as an alternative, Dont.

The only way i can stand to live with my unbelievably over-protective parents, and a father who loves to yell (thank god its not physical abuse, just psychological, Which i can handle, i like to think i have a strong mind.) is to continually think about how i'll be free to do whatever i want when i am 18.

gadoo · Post by **gadoo** » Thu Jul 17, 2003 3:06 am

I think physical is better than psychological. physical they hit you then they get out of the way. but the vocal one...they bitch bitch bitch and they stay like that for hours!

I can't get any work done with people yelling in my ears all the time