well fuck... (relationship troubles)

[CaTaClYsM]

Well Rad, wether the advice helps you or not, I hope things turn out ok.

[RadicalEd0]

Thanks, and thanks for putting up with my bitching :\
I think I know what I'm gonna do now. I've talked to 6 people and 3 of them have told me to just forget about her and move on, and 3 of them have told me to try and make it through this. I'm not just gonna give this up. As much as I HATE to sound so hokey on here of all places she was my first true love and I hers. I've spent 1000 days and probably more than $1000 just to talk to her. She lives 1000 miles away, 1000 is the lucky number oh gosh. She says what we had before is just as real as whats going on now, so then what is real? I dont think shes incapable of loving anymore. I dont think she really believes shes better off this way. I think if I just have to sit here and wait for her to grow up then thats what I'll do, because I love her. And she fails to realize that love is more than just an emotion. Love is the connection of the body, the emotional body, and the mind, but also more than all of those, its an underlying connection and want for two separate beings to become one again, as they were in the beginning, as they will be in the end.

Wtf am I talking about

Neways.. I might go see what a shrink has to say about how I should handle this 'development' since theyre the only people who could really give me advice about this sort of thing.

I put too much in her, my dreams, my future, my feelings, my trust. I cant just give that up :\ at least as long as theres some hope left.

[Lyrs]

Ding. I do hope she gets some help.

/end

[kthulhu]

I've talked to 6 people and 3 of them have told me to just forget about her and move on, and 3 of them have told me to try and make it through this.

Forget her. If she has head problems, she might be another Andrea Yates down the line. Alternatively, she could be pulling a mindfuck, and digging you for attention or some shit. An emotional power/manipulation trip.

So dump her ass (especially if she is 1000 miles away and you can't verify how she REALLY is), and look for someone closer to you (in person would be best, but whatever).

You're a nice guy I'm sure, Ed. But you shouldn't be a doormat.

The balance is now tipped 8) .

P.S. If you really, really want to disregard my advice, and if you want to try to salvage this probable shipwreck, get a plane ticket somehow and see her in person.

[CaTaClYsM]

New idea, ask her close friends and parents whats going on. They could really shed some light on how she's really feeling.

[MistyCaldwell]

I think you should do just what you feel Ed. Your decision is going to have to be you own.

No amount of advice is going to make you change sides when it comes to something as irrational as love it is just something you have to go through and feel...and even if a million people tell you are wrong to feel a certain way, it's not going to stop that feeling.

I do hope you can move on because that is what you actually need right now...first loves are special and they will stay with you your whole life...so no need to forget them or trivialize them. That is true even if you live 1000 miles away 'cause the feeling was still the same to you.

And once you do move on, you can look at the relationship in another light which can help you feel better as well as build character or something .

But in order to actually move on, you'd have to want to yourself. When you are with someone who has mental problems, getting away from them mentally is more important than physically sometimes.

In other words, when you do want to move on, you need to be sure about that and then do it. Going back and forth to someone who is depressed just helps them continue their cycles. It'll make you nuts too

You should go talk to a professional though. They may help you understand what is going through her mind if she has clinical case of depression. That'll also help you make a better decision on what you should do.

You need to get at peace with the situation so you can move on without getting a complex or something you are too young to be going through such heavy stuff. I know of people who let bad relationships taint them for life and they either repeat the thing over and over, or get bitter and never want another relationship.

[CaTaClYsM]

Well, I have advice for gettign her back if thats what you are going to try doing.

If you are going to try and get over her thats OK too since you'll be saving yourself alot of heartache and trouble.

[RadicalEd0]

I'm going to try to wake her the fuck up :\

otherwise moving on is my only other choice
but its the last resort :\

[CaTaClYsM]

the parents angle is never a happy one, but once you've asked all her friends and you have nothing else left, her parents are the only people left who can give you any insight into whats going on in her brain. You need to find out whats actually going on before you try and convince her otherwise.

where the hell is panda? he sould have some insight and advice for you on this situation.

[WilLoW :--)]

Honestly, I can say that you probably won't stop worrying for awhile , but put a good 6 months on you and you'll feel a lot better. I promise

6 months aren't enough