well fuck... (relationship troubles)

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Post by RadicalEd0 » Sun Mar 16, 2003 6:16 pm

Have the meds she took ever worked? Did she never complete them even...just stop taking them or that they made her sick?

If she has been on so many kinds, obviously her parents know she is depressed but if you tell her parents everything to help her...it may be that she won't talk to you again or even not admit them to her parents.

The best thing for Ed to do in the end is what he feels he should. Not let this drag him down to the point that it possibly has?...but if you really want to help her that is what you are going to have to do. That way you won't have regret that you could have done something if you guys end up calling it quits permanently. I just hope you draw a line somewhere and not go past it.

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Thanks misty. Actually, thanks cat and everyone who's helped me out and offered any kind of advice or support, it really means alot.

IIRC prozac started thinning her hair, so they ditched that. Her OCD medication works fine, and I'm not sure why she's off zoloft now, she just recently told me that and I didnt get a chance to ask whyfor.

Her parents have "tried" to help her.. her mom took her to counseling last year at one point, although she was reluctant to be honest with the counselor. However.. at that point, her mom WAS a big part of the problem, and she was too stupid and ditzy to realize it.

And I've felt alot better since yesterday or so, ever since I've thought over it and thought over my options and what people have said.

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Post by RadicalEd0 » Sun Mar 16, 2003 6:19 pm

oh btw

NO thanks to people whove just yelled GET OVER IT!!!lol!!

this isnt sum ordinary breakup.. :\ n I dont have any time for shallow minded answers or quitting.

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Post by MistyCaldwell » Sun Mar 16, 2003 6:28 pm

:) don't mention it.

RadicalEd0 wrote: Her parents have "tried" to help her.. her mom took her to counseling last year at one point, although she was reluctant to be honest with the counselor. However.. at that point, her mom WAS a big part of the problem, and she was too stupid and ditzy to realize it.


Yes, like I mentioned, it's their thoughts that are mostly the problem, they usually act out by hurting themselves before hurting others and can hide very well.

Bi-polar people seem to have the set up for depression from genetics but it's their environment that can tip them over the edge a lot of the time. In other words, it runs in the family two ways. Genes and then people raised by depressed parents usually aren't that stable themselves.

It's not suprising she isn't 100% honest with the counselor. A lot of the problems she has right now probably stems from just being a teenage girl living with her parents.

I imagine if she gets out to college and spends some time away from them, that will help a lot. That's a bit far away anyway and I have noticed bi-polar people have a self esteem problem that also gives them a lack of ambition....perhaps you won't have to wait 20 years, just 5 for her to graduate and move out of her house and she'll get better. Being a teenaged girl is pretty darn tough! *not sarcasm guys* :)

And I've felt alot better since yesterday or so, ever since I've thought over it and thought over my options and what people have said.
You do what you have to do Ed. We'll be here to provide disembodied support any time you need it ^__^
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Post by MegaMouth » Sun Mar 16, 2003 6:54 pm

Drop her like a loaf.
I am not being insensitive, and wouldnt have even posted anything (as I really dont care to anymore) but I know how you feel. I dated a Bi polar girl once, and things get REALLY fucked up. Trust me. She threatened to kill me and herself if I left her. I told her to go ahead and try it, as I wouldnt put up with her dragging me down her little hell hole of a head. It worked though, she has Chlamydia from becoming a slut and I am perfectly fine. True, it will screw her up more, but you will live. Otherwise, who KNOWS what will happen to you 2. I bet girls thought that Jeffrey Dahmer was a sensitive man, til he was gay, homicidal, and a necropheliac cannibal.

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Post by RadicalEd0 » Sun Mar 16, 2003 7:47 pm

my fortune cookie says
":) You have the ability to turn disaster into adventure. :)"

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Post by RadicalEd0 » Mon Mar 24, 2003 1:35 am

.................

shit......

I just stumbled upon her live journal... which I didnt know existed.......

guess what? Shes been going out with Joe since valentines day. Guess she figured itd be more convenient for me to just think she cant love anymore.

fuck... I dont know what the hell im supposed to do now... I need to find the number of her friends house that shes sleeping over at now and call it.. even though its 1am..

... oh man

last night I had a dream that she was breaking to me the fact that she had been screwing other guys the whole time and faking her innocence...
what the fuck

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Post by EarthCurrent » Mon Mar 24, 2003 1:43 am

RadicalEd0 wrote:.................

shit......

I just stumbled upon her live journal... which I didnt know existed.......

guess what? Shes been going out with Joe since valentines day. Guess she figured itd be more convenient for me to just think she cant love anymore.

fuck... I dont know what the hell im supposed to do now... I need to find the number of her friends house that shes sleeping over at now and call it.. even though its 1am..

... oh man

last night I had a dream that she was breaking to me the fact that she had been screwing other guys the whole time and faking her innocence...
what the fuck
Yeah! Adventure!!!

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Post by CaTaClYsM » Mon Mar 24, 2003 1:49 am

Oh man.. That really has to suck. What sucks more is how she lives so far away. So what do you want to do now. You have a few options.


1. Get pissed, and then get vindictive and plot some sort of revenge. (or as I call it, poetic justice.)

2. Get sad, and grieve for what she did to you. ( This should be doen in combinatoin with option one or three.)

3. Living well is the best revenge, pretend not to know keep trying to get back together. Meanwhile you really are busy get a new GF. ( It shouldn't take mroe than 5 mins.) Then when you have a new GF, go and tell your old GF that you gave up and got someone else. :lol:
So in other words, one part of the community is waging war on another part of the community because they take their community seriously enough to want to do so. Then they tell the powerless side to get over the loss cause it's just an online community. I'm glad people make so much sense." -- Tab

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Post by RadicalEd0 » Mon Mar 24, 2003 1:51 am

correction, as of feb 5th, not valentines

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Post by RadicalEd0 » Mon Mar 24, 2003 1:54 am

right now im not even thinking about the future cat, right now i'm thinking what the fuck am I going to do, its 2AM, I dont know the # where shes staying, I wont be able to sleep of course, and theres nobody I can call. All I can do is distract myself for a few hours until its late enough in the day to call her house and find out the number of her friends where shes staying

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