What are your relationship with you parents like?

Lyrs · Post by **Lyrs** » Thu Oct 16, 2003 6:56 pm

What are your relationships with you parents like? Specifically with your mom.

I'm asking this because i'm currently working an a study of the family and the relationships between teenagers and their parents, primarily the relationship with their moms.

Any help appreciated. If you would rather send a response through a PM, go ahead.

Flint the Dwarf · Post by **Flint the Dwarf** » Thu Oct 16, 2003 7:05 pm

My mom and I have a pretty good relationship... she's had a chronic illness for 13 years and I took care of her while I was home. A lot of times it was tough, because she was stubborn and wouldn't listen to me or my brothers when she was being stupid (doing something that would make her condition worse). One time it got really bad, and she was a few breaths away from death but wouldn't let us take her to the hospital because she didn't trust the doctors. We took her in regardless and no one was sure she would make it for at least a week and we visisted her as much as we could. Once she started to recover, we were pretty relieved... since then, she's started acting more like a mother and I wasn't sure what to make of it (she had been bed-ridden since I was 5). I was almost completely independent and she took offense at it, because she wanted to act like the mother she wanted to be but couldn't when I was kid. Well... that was about 7 months ago. We don't talk much while I'm here at college, but she sends letters once a month or so.

As for my dad, he's a drunk and a pothead. I have no respect for him.

My step-dad acts too high and mighty for me to like much. But he does, I believe, love my mother.

I won't elaborate on those.

Did that help any?

SQ · Post by SQ » Thu Oct 16, 2003 7:06 pm

Well, if it's for a school paper, I'll just explain how it is generally...

Me:
Always fight. On "good" days we get along, but we usually end up fighting about SOMEthing each day. Teenagers don't like people ordering them around... They feel they're just about an adult now, and get along by themselves.

Friend 1:
They're not mother and daughter... They just live together. It's basically, "I gave birth to you, time for you to take care of yourself."
The only time they really talk is when her mom has to drive her somewhere...

Friend 2:
Her and her mom have what I'd call a "Normal" relationship. She(my friend) usually tells her mom everything except for major things like her sister smoking ciggs at school, because she's worried for her sister.

Friend 3:
Tightly knit. They tell eachother EVERYTHING and nothing is left to the imagination. She(my friend) will take days off JUST to be with her mom.

Of course, those are all mother-daughter, so I don't think you should base your paper on that.

Anyway, pick up a parent magazine. Within the last two months I've seen a lot of Motherly "help guides" for teens. That may help you.
If you want a more detailed relationship with me and my mom, ask anything. I'm free for telling.
Although, my family's weird so.. er, yeah.

SQ · Post by SQ » Thu Oct 16, 2003 7:07 pm

flint_the_dwarf wrote:My mom and I have a pretty good relationship... she's had a chronic illness for 13 years and I took care of her while I was home. A lot of times it was tough, because she was stubborn and wouldn't listen to me or my brothers when she was being stupid (doing something that would make her condition worse). One time it got really bad, and she was a few breaths away from death but wouldn't let us take her to the hospital because she didn't trust the doctors. We took her in regardless and no one was sure she would make it for at least a week and we visisted her as much as we could. Once she started to recover, we were pretty relieved... since then, she's started acting more like a mother and I wasn't sure what to make of it (she had been bed-ridden since I was 5). I was almost completely independent and she took offense at it, because she wanted to act like the mother she wanted to be but couldn't when I was kid. Well... that was about 7 months ago. We don't talk much while I'm here at college, but she sends letters once a month or so.

As for my dad, he's a drunk and a pothead. I have no respect for him.

My step-dad acts too high and mighty for me to like much. But he does, I believe, love my mother.

I won't elaborate on those.

Did that help any?

You're not a teenager. No, it didn't help any. Go away!

Flint the Dwarf · Post by **Flint the Dwarf** » Thu Oct 16, 2003 7:09 pm

But I was a teenager!

I didn't really talk about my relationship with her now. Most of it was reflection. So it still counts ^_^.

SQ · Post by SQ » Thu Oct 16, 2003 7:12 pm

No, it doesn't.
Leave you fairly hairy dwarf! LEAVE!

Lyrs · Post by **Lyrs** » Thu Oct 16, 2003 7:15 pm

Thanks flint, i forgot about the affects of sickness. i'll make sure to add it. thanks.

and thank you SQ for the help in structuring mother relationships.

It helps to have as many quality sources and views and opinions as possible. As for the age thing, it doesn't really matter here, because even if you are not in your teen years anymore, you still have the memories.

Veldrin · Post by **Veldrin** » Thu Oct 16, 2003 7:16 pm

Me and my mom have a great relationship. I deeply love my mother and I believe she returns the feelings. We have very similar personalities and intrests and we share them with each other alot. I find my part as the child couldnt be better. My mom is motherly and helps me alot, but shes not over helpful. What I mean is she dosnt do everything for me, which is good. We also laugh alot. I always am asking her if I can go out to the market with her, or run to some other store, just becuase I like to be with her. I have seen my friends with their mothers and I am sad. Alot of them will probably never have a healthy relationship with their mothers. The attitudes of my friends is generally 'I hate my parents, screw them.' Or the like. Anyway thats my relationship with my mom.

Flint the Dwarf · Post by **Flint the Dwarf** » Thu Oct 16, 2003 7:19 pm

Lyrs wrote:It helps to have as many quality sources and views and opinions as possible. As for the age thing, it doesn't really matter here, because even if you are not in your teen years anymore, you still have the memories.

Oh yeah, one more thing... she used to read to me when I was kid and that, I believe, is a big part of what makes me want to be a writer. We used to talk about books for hours.

SQ · Post by SQ » Thu Oct 16, 2003 7:21 pm

flint_the_dwarf wrote:
Lyrs wrote:It helps to have as many quality sources and views and opinions as possible. As for the age thing, it doesn't really matter here, because even if you are not in your teen years anymore, you still have the memories.
Oh yeah, one more thing... she used to read to me when I was kid and that, I believe, is a big part of what makes me want to be a writer. We used to talk about books for hours.

Really? I wanted to be a writer all on my own. My parents are trying to convince me to be an artist.

Which, yeah, I can draw, but I don't want ot make a profession out of it. They seem to not get that through their heads...

Anyway, Lyrs, why's it only mother/child relationship?
All the "fun" stuff happens with my dad.