The Happy Thread

[catgod]

[lloyd9988]

So... I made a new friend.

See, I don't know about the rest of you, but I don't consider myself friends with people that I only see at work (or as it was a few year ago, during classes). I don't think of a person as a friend until he or she has spent some time with me outside of that environment, where we aren't restricted by time or obligations. It's the difference between seeing that person by chance and seeing them by choice. If you go out of your way to be around me, then that says you want a relationship, not that I am just a substitute until you can get home to real friends.

That said, I consider myself to have very, very few friends. I wanted to explain that so that you'd understand why it is a huge deal that last night I went out for coffee with a person (other than my best friend) for the first time in probably four years or more (probably more, since I stopped trying to be sociable around my third year of college). We sat and chatted over coffee and pie for about three hours, which is much longer than I expected him to stick around, as I am very awkward naturally and even moreso due to lack of social experience any time recently. We managed to really hit it off, though, and he seemed more than happy to plan more outings in the future.

This is really strange to me. I've gotten so used to people being uncomfortable around me when I try to be friendly, or thinking that I'm some kind of dump tank for their bitching and problems that they talk at me instead of with me. With the way my current friendships seem to be strained and broken, I've been needing an injection of new blood into my life - and then, suddenly, in waltzes this guy who has a ton of common interests, isn't weird around me, and genuinely seems engaged in our conversations. It's the first good luck I've had in years.

So I made a new friend, and although it is tentative and delicate, I'm happy right now. I'm not hanging my hopes on anything yet, but it's a good start.

He might like you. Anyway, good luck!

[Pwolf]

I bought new tail lights for the burz and didn't know they had shipped already... so I was at my mom's for dinner and the box was waiting for me :O so happy.

[dj_ultima_the_great]

He might like you. Anyway, good luck!

Ha, thanks for the well wishes, but definitely a "no" on that theory. He is MAJORLY hung up on one of his other female friends (who already has a boyfriend) and he openly admits to being in love with her for the last six years. I tried to get him to see the futility of attempting to win the affections of someone who is just not attracted to you, but it's pretty clear to me that the only way he'll learn is through firsthand heartbreak. Sometimes you just gotta let people make their own mistakes, especially when dealing with love.

[lloyd9988]

Ha, thanks for the well wishes, but definitely a "no" on that theory. He is MAJORLY hung up on one of his other female friends (who already has a boyfriend) and he openly admits to being in love with her for the last six years. I tried to get him to see the futility of attempting to win the affections of someone who is just not attracted to you, but it's pretty clear to me that the only way he'll learn is through firsthand heartbreak. Sometimes you just gotta let people make their own mistakes, especially when dealing with love.

Just fuck him, then you'll know.

But seriously, he sounds weird and to be in love for 6 years is creepy in my book. Not to mention, she already has a boyfriend so what's the point for him to keep trying?? He should just move on and find a new girl like you

[dj_ultima_the_great]

Just fuck him, then you'll know.

Ha ha, not even in the same galaxy as the Realm of Possibility.

But seriously, he sounds weird and to be in love for 6 years is creepy in my book. Not to mention, she already has a boyfriend so what's the point for him to keep trying?? He should just move on and find a new girl like you

Well, it's not so creepy when you consider that six years ago he was only thirteen, so I'm sure it was more of a puppy love back then. Also, she's been fully aware of his feelings for quite a while, so it's not like he was secretly fawning over her all this time either. It's pretty much the typical story of she just wants to be friends because he's not her type, but he thinks that her boyfriend is a douchebag, and he believes that if he keeps being a good friend and showing unconditional love that she'll eventually break up with the other guy and go for him instead. I hate using this term because I don't think it's a real thing, but saying he was "friendzoned" would be the easiest way to describe the situation.

I mean, if he were a bit older, I would be a harsher judge about his unhealthy attachment, but he's still young. I re-evaluated myself completely when I got away from home and went to college. I think he just needs to get out on his own and he'll get a better perspective on life in general.

As for me, it's fun and all to joke around, but in seriousness, I'm not looking for a boyfriend here. Even if it were an option for me, romance is out of the question with things in my life as totally fucked up as they are right now. I can barely maintain friendships, forget anything more than that. At this point, I just want to focus on little things that I can do to make myself happy - like making a new friend.

[Pwolf]

Had the day off so I slept in and then went out for a drive up to Lake Berryessa. Was quite enjoyable and the lake was quiet and peaceful.

[lloyd9988]

Well, it's not so creepy when you consider that six years ago he was only thirteen, so I'm sure it was more of a puppy love back then. Also, she's been fully aware of his feelings for quite a while, so it's not like he was secretly fawning over her all this time either. It's pretty much the typical story of she just wants to be friends because he's not her type, but he thinks that her boyfriend is a douchebag, and he believes that if he keeps being a good friend and showing unconditional love that she'll eventually break up with the other guy and go for him instead. I hate using this term because I don't think it's a real thing, but saying he was "friendzoned" would be the easiest way to describe the situation.

I mean, if he were a bit older, I would be a harsher judge about his unhealthy attachment, but he's still young. I re-evaluated myself completely when I got away from home and went to college. I think he just needs to get out on his own and he'll get a better perspective on life in general.

As for me, it's fun and all to joke around, but in seriousness, I'm not looking for a boyfriend here. Even if it were an option for me, romance is out of the question with things in my life as totally fucked up as they are right now. I can barely maintain friendships, forget anything more than that. At this point, I just want to focus on little things that I can do to make myself happy - like making a new friend.

Honestly, I don't understand why us guys get so hung up on one girl that HAPPENED to like us at one point. I think we're just desperate for some attention because we watch too much pron or maybe too many harem anime shows. And lay that ban hammer down on the poor guy! Scar him horribly until he's done crying and doesn't want anything to do with the real world! Its the quickest and most efficient way possible! Of course, you may lose him as a friend but that's just minor details. ^_^

Just Kidding, of course. But, honestly, I kinda had that similar situation with a girl I knew and we talked too each other for awhile but she knew that, unless she was interested in me, that our relationship was essentially... Pointless... Sad to say but true. The problem was that I needed to realize that: "Hey, I'm the third wheel in her life. And, unless I want to keep being used like a rag doll for her too keep telling me all her f*cking emotional drama that I don't even want to bother listening too, then I should break off my relationship with her." My brother helped me snap out of that fantasy and into reality about what was really going on. So, I just told her I don't want to hang out anymore. Then she asked me if she could still call me. So I said no and that was the end of that relationship.

The thing I'm just trying to say, whether its easy for him to hear or not, is that even if her boyfriend is a douche bag, he needs to butt out because its their relationship, not his. And he needs to learn not only to respect their relationship, but also respect himself enough to not let himself keep hoping for a fantasy. Anyway, just my two cents! I LOVE relationship drama! 8'D

[catgod]

Had the day off so I slept in and then went out for a drive up to Lake Berryessa. Was quite enjoyable and the lake was quiet and peaceful.

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very snice, in my town our lake is dried up so that's cool

[Pwolf]

Yo lake is so dried up you got old towns popping up in the lake!