Flint the Dwarf wrote:Otohiko wrote:Sure you might end up wanting to avoid cars if you ever get into a car accident, but are you really going to be better off never driving in the future? Would you really rather be stuck to things in walking distance from you than get in a vehicle? Does it make all the places you've been to thanks to cars before you had the accident worthless?
To the first question, very possibly. To the second, why not? To the third, no, but it puts everything else into perspective. Your relationship with your more immediate surroundings becomes different.
Having never had a license or having owned a car, I've walked most everywhere all my adult life. I've noticed my attitude toward the city or town in which I live ends up being fundamentally different from those around me. What you do have available to you becomes more essential, less liable to be taken for granted. If you want to compare vehicular transportation to love, because they both help you reach places you couldn't before (cars physically, love emotionally), you consider the alternative. Cars get people places quickly, help them do more in less time. Love focuses and intensifies emotional ties with one person, effectively reaching a higher ground more quickly. Both create a sort of dependency that make it difficult for a person to cope without.
Having loved and lost, I don't know if the convenience of love was worth the crippling afterward. In the last 3 years I haven't even approached the "crush" relationship with another person. I feel cut off and isolated. I interact with people, relate with them and empathize with them, but never really connect. I don't even think self-dependence is necessarily the best path, but the sort of focused purpose of love tends to exclude the scenery of life; meaningful interactions with other people. I think I can live a fulfilling life without that single relationship to which we could ascribe the word "love." I think I can walk, stroll, and saunter through the crowds and not feel alone. But I still feel crippled, like I could do more, and without that one extra thing I'll be missing something crucial.
At least you can get insurance with cars.
I'd LOVE to never have to drive again and just walk everywhere.
I should probably live in new york.