Relationships and being your own person
- wurpess
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I'm lucky to have a guy who is extroverted but also likes his alone time (with his video games. ) But yeah, I've been around enough to know there's a big enough world out there with enough variety. Love is like dress shopping. You find one that is an almost, but not quite in your size and not alterable (or that you can't girdle up enough to fit into comfortably), there's always another one in a better fit. Might be tough to part with the one you have or it might take some time and effort to find another one, but its there. Its all about finding the perfect fit that looks good on you, or finding something close that either you can alter or compromise into being perfect. But even so, there are some fits and sizes you can't comfortably wear for more than 2 seconds. Let him know how you feel. If you're meant to be, he will accept it and it will work out. If he doesn't, its not meant to be. I've been in enough torturous "almost" relationships, and I can tell you, its not worth it. And on the note of being suspected of cheating, not trying to ruin anything or make you paranoid, but many times, significant others that irrationally accuse of cheating many times are either the ones who have cheated or have a past history of cheating. Therefore, they are more paranoid because they are most aware what people are capable of because they have done it themselves.
- jasper-isis
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Re: Relationships and being your own person
Sounds like there's a little bit of insecurity going on here. I wouldn't call that horrible or abnormal, but if he were more confident he wouldn't seriously think that. (I was going to suggest taking out the the "quasi" element to solidify things more, but there's no telling whether that'd help in the long run...)Shazzy wrote:or I'm seeing someone else.
I second/third/whatever the suggestion to tell him flat-out, if you haven't already. He can always find something else to do a few nights a week, right? And if he misses you terribly so, he can perhaps call you and chat for a few minutes every now and then.
Whatever you do, it definitely doesn't have to be a "change now or it's over" kinda thing. You can always work out some kind of compromise, but whether you want to or not is for you to decide. (I'd give it a try!)
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