Relationships and being your own person
- Shazzy
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Relationships and being your own person
I'm having a conflict of interest with my current quasiboyfriend. I'm a decently social person, but I like to have time to myself to work on movie projects, write stories, play piano--basically just mess around and do stuff alone. Right now I'm taking 15 credit hours and working 20 hrs/wk, so my free time is pretty limited. Problem is that the boyfriend wants to hang out EVERY night after school/work. How do I explain that I need alone time? I tried telling him I'm an introvert, but he just thinks I'm annoyed by him or I'm seeing someone else. So yeah, how do I get an extrovert to understand I'm going to go INSANE if I see him all the time?
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Well yes, if the guy's not stupid and at all worth having a relationship with, he'll be able to get the literal meaning of it without reading some sort of rejection into it.
But haha, perfect illustration of why I can't get a girlfriend or even the sort of friends I want, at least in the English/North American society. My [implicitly-expressed] expectations of commitment and time scare people off
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put out. he wont care about anything else. (no offense intended to you or him.)
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From personal experience, just explain it to him clearly. Set boundaries and make sure he knows what they are. If he can't give you space, then he's probably not worth it, and it's just not going to work out anyway. If he's driving you crazy then you can't really have a healthy relationship.
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Re: Relationships and being your own person
This part makes me worry. Irrational jealousy is not good. Doesn't he trust you? That's not fair.Shazzy wrote:but he just thinks I'm annoyed by him or I'm seeing someone else.
I had something like this a while back. I had to beg for one hour a week alone-time, and even then it took a bunch of (true) reasons until he finally accepted one. I was miserable, and for no good reason. Because he thought a girl should literally hang on his every word all the time. Ego-tripping, basically. Stupid. Stuuuupid.
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xn+1 on the "there's better out there who aren't creepily controlling" sentiment.
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