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Re: Relationship thread

Postby L.Fist » Sun Oct 11, 2009 9:15 pm

I'm desperate enough. :nose:
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Re: Relationship thread

Postby CodeZTM » Sun Oct 11, 2009 9:20 pm

Had a few relationships that didn't work out, but doesn't everybody?

I'm dying for a relationship with a certain girl, but it's never gonna happen, because she's my best friend's sister and dating a different friend of mine. :sweat:
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Re: Relationship thread

Postby Ghet » Sun Oct 11, 2009 9:23 pm

Code wrote:Had a few relationships that didn't work out, but doesn't everybody?

I'm dying for a relationship with a certain girl, but it's never gonna happen, because she's my best friend's sister and dating a different friend of mine. :sweat:

i read this post after l.fister's post and for some reason i still had the word desperate in my head, so when i read certain it somehow became Cat girl >.>
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Re: Relationship thread

Postby Otohiko » Mon Oct 12, 2009 12:31 am

jasper-isis wrote:EDIT: Oh yeah, and as for me, I have been dating my boyfriend for four years now, and I don't see that changing anytime soon. We've had our share of bumps along the way, but we always try to put effort into working things out and making our relationship stronger.


I gotta say, now that I've met you guys in person, so far out of all the couples I know you two are the relationship I look up to the most! :P Not at all because you look like a stereotypical "perfect couple", but exactly because with you two, it's very easy to see (or at least sense) the communication and effort that goes on, without it ever seeming out of balance or unnatural. By the same token, it can also be a bit irritating (and I mean that in the most endearing way possible) to be around you two sometimes cause you communicate pretty much telepathically >__>

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Me? I've never been in a serious relationship, I guess. Which is ironic considering that unlike a lot of guys I know, I a) genuinely enjoy the process of working things out between people; b) in general, get along with girls far better than with guys. But if you look closer, those two things are actually tied to personality traits which pretty much shoot me in the foot, so to speak. I am a relatively passive person who connects to people less through activities and more through sympathy and emotional connections. I am sensitive to other people's moods and invest myself into other people's feelings, often to an extreme extent; and I loathe confrontation to the point where I will take fault or get out of the way if I think it will help defuse situations even a little (to those who know me - this is where my habit of apologizing profusely for everything comes from). Of course, what this practically translates into is that I come off as indecisive, overly-emotional, oversensitive and otherwise flat-out unmanly. So, that's obstacle #1. (maybe this part is better-suited to debate in Beo's thread)

Obstacle #2 is that while I may not expect some sudden perfect-girl to come along and I not only acknowledge the hard work relationships take but actually look forward to it, I still do have romantic ideals I'm hung up on which I categorically refuse to give up. I don't understand dating culture. I see dating culture as inevitably bound up in consumer culture, relationships-of-convenience and safety nets to shield people from actual emotional connections by falling back on purchased experience. I'm not interested in putting on acts or being an audience for one. The day I stoop to viewing relationships as nothing more than a commodity is the day I will consider my life to have turned out a total failure. And I will sooner stay single than compromise on this. Of course, this also does not reflect how comfortable or resigned I am to being single. I am disappointed, bitter and sometimes jealous. My single-ness deprives me of a source of support that I grew up expecting and a definite point of orientation/goal in life, and it drives me nuts.

On that topic, reason #3 is my fucked up cultural mindset, thank you Russia and thank you my parents' upbringing. I have a set of values, norms and standards of relationships that are lost in translation and as outdated as Soviet 'communism' itself.

All of which goes to say, I'll probably die alone.





(how's this for a relationship thread post? :amv: )
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Re: Relationship thread

Postby Radical_Yue » Mon Oct 12, 2009 12:55 am

Code wrote:Had a few relationships that didn't work out, but doesn't everybody?

I'm dying for a relationship with a certain girl, but it's never gonna happen, because she's my best friend's sister and dating a different friend of mine. :sweat:



Eh, I wouldn't say "never gonna happen" >>

Honestly...you never really know how things will go...I spent months upon months convincing myself that my boyfriend would never go for me and there is no way in hell I'd ever be involved in a relationship :P

Kinda getting ready to move in with him >>
So yeah, you never know what will happen in the future :P


btw - org relationships are win.

Romantic (<3) and friendship wise. Best I've ever had <3<3<3




And George, you won't die alone >:|
You'll always have Mitch and Chris <3 GAYCEN FOREVER.
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Re: Relationship thread

Postby L.Fist » Mon Oct 12, 2009 7:41 am

I believe my only problem is I care too much about the people around me. I don't take too much time for myself. I mean, it's one thing if you the mental capacity to know in your heart that your loved one is the most important one in your life, but what's the point if you can't get your own life straight, right? Self-esteem is what I lack the most. Unfortunately, that's just me. I'll learn eventually.

Emo out of me now, is that forum gonna happen? :lol:
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Re: Relationship thread

Postby Angelyco » Mon Oct 12, 2009 11:05 am

I'm married to Nygmatech Enterprises on the Org (better know as part of Lawrence Studios, if you go to the Otakon AMV contests :) ) We dated for about 7.5 years before getting married last November, so I was already with him when he started editing, and it's his fault that I edit now :up:
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Re: Relationship thread

Postby Otohiko » Mon Oct 12, 2009 2:37 pm

Radical_Yue wrote:
And George, you won't die alone >:|


Wanna bet? >__>

One thing that bothers me a lot lately is that not only am I not in a relationship, but there's really noone I'm even especially interested in.

Code: yeeeeah, "never" is an awfully relative term, although obviously we know pretty little about the situation. My brother was in a somewhat similar scenario with a girl he was really attracted to but who he kinda banned himself from dating for similar reasons - and as they say, time flies - he's now not only dated her but even broke up with her :P Life plays tricks with that, and you can only see a lot of this in hindsight.

However ".org relationships" in a broader sense is something that keeps surprising me. Seriously, for all the talking down of the "inner circle" and "clique dynamics", there is one hell of an amazing group of friends that the .org helped gather. Could be the site's greatest achievement in the big scheme of things :amv:
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Re: Relationship thread

Postby guy07 » Mon Oct 12, 2009 3:01 pm

Otohiko wrote:However ".org relationships" ... could be the site's greatest achievement in the big scheme of things :amv:


Until we achieve world domination, anyways. :amv:

As for me, I've been in a relationship with a woman for about 9 months now. This relationship is actually working out so far, which is something that baffles me. I've never had a relationship go this well! ... or go well at all, actually. Those that recall my crazy "girlfriends parents are evil" rants a while back will be happy that i choose to avoid them so things are going much better. They still seem to think I'm the reincarnation of the devil, but meh. I don't have to love them to love my girlfriend, ya know? It would be nice if i could see her a little more often ... she's busy with college/work/track team so I only get to see her like once a week. :(

As for org relationships, I think it's a great idea. At the very least it will give you something in common to talk about/ do together. I don't think we should get all elaborate and set up a section of the site for dating specifically, but maybe a little optional "relationship status" section on profiles would be a good idea. :up:
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Re: Relationship thread

Postby Kalium » Mon Oct 12, 2009 8:22 pm

guy07 wrote:
Otohiko wrote:However ".org relationships" ... could be the site's greatest achievement in the big scheme of things :amv:


Until we achieve world domination, anyways. :amv:

>.>

I'm still working on the bit where I figure out how to meet women. Talking to people in bars is meeting with only limited success.
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Re: Relationship thread

Postby Koopiskeva » Tue Oct 13, 2009 10:18 am

What is this..
..amateur hour?

Oh wait, I'm engaged.. should probably actually get married someday >_>
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Re: Relationship thread

Postby ZephyrStar » Tue Oct 13, 2009 10:28 am

Otohiko wrote:One thing that bothers me a lot lately is that not only am I not in a relationship, but there's really noone I'm even especially interested in.


I hear ya. Thus my attempt to get out more. I'm my own worst enemy when it comes to that, as in "what the hell am I going to go do, where would I possibly go to meet somebody" but you have to get outta that mindset and be spontaneous. And another person actually showing genuine interest in you can change your perspective a great deal. I guess the idea is, they can't happen if you don't put yourself in a situation where they can. I found that as soon as I had gone to a few events, I had several people interested in me. Unfortunately, it wasn't mutual, but hey, I made some new friends.

That's why I like to take my laptop, waste gas, go to the coffee shop or to the park and hang around, get some fresh air. I also joined meetup.com....that's pretty cool even for just making new friends and finding stuff to do.
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Re: Relationship thread

Postby Radical_Yue » Tue Oct 13, 2009 10:29 am

Koopiskeva wrote:Oh wait, I'm engaged.. should probably actually get married someday >_>



We've already talked about this :P You two waited the longest therefore you have to get married AFTER everyone else, member?
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Re: Relationship thread

Postby Koopiskeva » Tue Oct 13, 2009 10:36 am

Radical_Yue wrote:
Koopiskeva wrote:Oh wait, I'm engaged.. should probably actually get married someday >_>



We've already talked about this :P You two waited the longest therefore you have to get married AFTER everyone else, member?


It'll be epic. |:>

PS - I just noticed I haven't changed my avatar since last halloween.. hahaha.
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Re: Relationship thread

Postby Radical_Yue » Tue Oct 13, 2009 10:43 am

Mmmk, Yue is done talkin bout relationships and any kinda serious talks for now |:>

Between this thread and Beo's How to get chicks it's an overload of seriousbusinessyessirbosssirmanlady.

Also, I haven't had much sleep and am slightly delirious now.


So here is Hitler Penguin that Yue drew at work |:>
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Edit: I was just about to sign on AIM to mention that to you Jay :P Good work.
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