Cyanna wrote:I put Scintilla in the friend zone the first time he asked me out. If he stopped being my friend at that point we never would have gotten married.
This. Immorrel actually spent 2 stints in the friend zone. Once when we 1st met, and once when I had a bout of insanity and dumped him for another guy. XP But ya know, if he had said 'Fuck this friend shit! I'm outta here!', especially after we broke up that 1st time, he wouldn't have been there when things went bad and I finally realized he was the one I really wanted. And we never would have gotten married. *^_^*
I have been on both ends of the 'friend zoning'. I have put guys there, and I have also been put there myself by guys. And I have found the 'I would rather have them as a friend than not at all' mind-set is what makes those types of things work. I am more likely to choose guys in my friend zone with this mind set to be my next serious boyfriend because by then, we already know each other pretty well, and they will have already had a chance to prove how much they really care about me. Which is half the battle right there. And on the other side of the fence, if I really like the guy and really care about him, I don't mind being in the friend zone. I mean yeah, it hurts seeing them with women (or men


