chit, my condolences.
It hurts when you receive news like that, especially when it hits home, and family members. It really affects everyone, not just that one person that has it. Everyone has a different way of expressing pain and concern. Don't feel bad for not feeling as sad as you think you should feel. Obviously you are feeling something and as long as you are aware of those feelings, at that moment, if you do not know how to express it, then write them down or do something that helps you manage it or deal with whatever frustration or feeling you have, whether it is hitting your pillow, crying it out...anything. Feeling nothing and empty and having no emotional response is a feeling and it is something that certain people express when receiving news of this magnitude. It is frustrating somewhat because you might not know what to do. Just be aware that it is alright for you to feel that way, because really, there is no perfect way of expressing feelings, especially that of cancer. No one knows how to perfectly manage the news. Personally, what i do that helped me when I received news of a family member who was deathly ill, was to just simply be there for that person. Your presence or words or even a card is all it takes for them to know that they are not alone. They need to feel that they are not alone. What it really boils down to is empathy. What if you received the news that you have cancer? How would you feel? How would you want others to treat you? Ask yourself those questions. Put yourself in their shoes.